Thursday, February 20, 2014
Gaydar: Myth or Matter - And why do we care so much?
WARNING: EXPLICIT LANGUAGE
This is one of the funniest scenes from Boomerang. You can fast forward to 1:32 minutes to get to my point but WHY?? The whole scene is hilarious!
Why do we (and I count myself in this too) care so much about the sexual orientation of other people?
I mean this is not just a "straight" person or a homophobic curiosity either. I have the same types of conversations with my gays about who's gay, who's not and even though I dabble in speculation (who am I kidding. I sometimes find myself doing full blown research on celebrities), the question really should be "who cares?"
I like how I sometimes feign indifference when asked the question "Is so and so gay?" I'm not so annoyed if it's about a celebrity, BUT I am truly annoyed when being asked about someone I know; even if they are in fact gay. So I answer "I don't know chile!! I don't sleep in their bedroom!"
Again, why do we care so much? I took great pleasure (thrilled, I might even say) the other day when I heard the news that the actress Ellen Page "came out"; not because I had a "good for her! Now she can be free!" moment. I wish I were that person. Instead I was like "I KNEW IT!!" And I spent the following two days trying to figure out who I told years ago that she was. UGH! What is wrong with me?
I think the fascination I have with outing someone is because deep down I just wish people can be themselves and be open to love who they want to love without having to hide. It must be incredibly tough regardless of whether you're a public figure or not, to keep that intimate part of one's self buried and hidden from family and friends.
NOW if I was to go on a witch hunt for gays, my prey would be the awful men on the down low. Putting the lives of women and other men in danger just because you're a coward is inexcusable and THAT's why people, I will continue to keep my gaydar skills activated. I can at least try to keep the women in my life safe...right? Or wrong? I really want to hear back from y'all on this one.